Manifest Your Soulmate

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Valentine’s Day ~ the day of love and romance has just passed by.

It’s not a grand day though if you are single and feeling depressed about your single status.

If you are single, then take heart. You’re not forgotten.

Today, by the way is Single Awareness Day – a day meant to celebrate all singletons with the key message that it’s okay to be single and there are numerous benefits to enjoying a single lifestyle.

But many singletons reach a point where they’re done with being lonely and they yearn to establish a deep and romantic connection.

They yearn to meet their Soulmate.

I’ve always found the concept of having a Soulmate rather intriguing – so I
chatted to Merle Cutten Westcott – a Life Alignment practitioner and asked her all about Soulmates and How to Manifest a Soulmate Relationship….

Merle, what is your definition of a soulmate?
That person who you connect with immediately. Usually a connection that you have never experienced before. Often a deep love connection, and it may be the kind of connection where within weeks you know that you will be with this person forever.
Who is a soulmate?
Soulmates can be your husband, lover or even friend. Sometimes you connect with a person on such a deep level that you can share everything with them. They are like a sister or mother to you, but there is no romantic connection. When we talk about manifesting a soulmate relationship we need to be very clear: are you looking for a life partner or friend?
How does one recognize their soulmate?
Not only will you feel an immediate attraction to the person, but over time the attraction will turn to love. The relationship needs to be one that allows you to be yourself and to grow. Often people think they have found their soulmate but in fact the relationship turns out to be toxic. You have to continually ask: is this serving me? In a soulmate relationship you support each other and allow each other to shine. A relationship where one person is jealous and holds the other back is not that of a soul mate.
I’ve heard of Twin Flames. Can you elaborate on this and is there a difference between Soulmates and Twin Flames?
A twin flame is our mirror, not our spiritual soulmate. So the relationships are often stormy. This doesn’t mean that they don’t work, the key here is that both the parties have to have learnt to love themselves, or they bring all their baggage into the relationship.
Why do people generally struggle to meet their soulmates and what blocks them from enjoying fulfilling romantic relationships?
The fact that we carry baggage, or cellular memory from every experience we have ever had, as well as memory from our parents and grandparents, means that we have blockages in our energetic field. Sometimes these prevent us from meeting the right person. And then if we do they often stop us from enjoying a fulfilling relationship, releasing these blockages opens us up to finding true love.
Is meeting one’s Soulmate the guarantee of a happy-ever-after love story?
Not at all. All relationships require work and commitment. If you are carrying past hurt that manifests in awful behavior no relationship will survive.
If one wishes to manifest a Soulmate relationship – what action should they take?
Working on yourself is a good way to manifest a Soulmate relationship. In Life Alignment we would work according to your higher self and release the blockages in your cellular memory, this impacts on how you function in the world. If you think of yourself as a pool of clear water and all the experiences you have ever had as the mud in the pool, then every time we do a balance we remove mud until the pool is clear again. As children we absorb the emotions of everyone around us, so for example children from divorced families, will often not manifest a relationship as the cellular memory tells them all relationships fail. If we release that memory from the cell, they still remember the details, we never erase that, but they are able to move on without the expectation that all relationships fail.
Your final words of advice to anyone who wants to attract a soulmate relationship?
Love yourself, and have a clear picture in your mind of what you want from a relationship. You can then attract the right kind of relationship. If you want a home and kids, no point in visualizing life on a yacht with a handsome sailor. I always tell my students and clients that, “Where thought goes energy flows.”
Thanks so much, Merle! I look forward to hosting you again to chat more about Life Alignment and how it can help people manifest their dream lives.

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ABOUT MERLE CUTTEN WESTCOTT

Since 1996, Merle has been practicing and teaching a complementary therapy called Life Alignment. Because of her Life Alignment practice, Merle developed a keen interest in nutrition and is a professional Banting Coach and co-author of the Low Carb Creed.
To connect with Merleemail merle@bantingbuddies.com
Have you been lucky enough to find your Soulmate? Or are you now inspired to attract a Soulmate relationship? I would love to hear from you…drop your comments below!

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Stop Waiting For Doors To Open – Build Your Own Door

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Milton Berle was an American comedian and actor.

He once famously said: “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”

The lesson from this quote is that instead of being passive – we should become proactive and create our own opportunities. We need to create our own luck and we need to take action to make things happen.

Often people say that they are waiting for the right opportunities and when nothing happens, they lose hope. Well instead of losing hope, one has to think out of the box and look at ways of creating new opportunities.

Use your skills and creativity. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you’re not a creative person. Everyone can be creative. You just have to tap into your creative side. Begin thinking of yourself as a creative person. Affirm that you are a magnificent creative being. As you think of yourself as being resourceful and creative you will be guided by instinct on the steps you need to take. And if you feel that you are lacking certain skills – than you can learn those skills. Assess which skills you are lacking. What skills do you need in order to progress? Sign up for classes or an online course and obtain those skills. Network with people in the particular field you are interested in. Don’t be afraid to ask for guidance or advice. Most successful people are willing to share their knowledge.

As you put your best self forward – opportunities will arise.

Remember you can’t wait for success to find you – you have to create your own success. Don’t be afraid to take the steps in creating your dream life.

Take full ownership of 2017 – if you have to build a new door – do it!

I would love to hear about your plans for 2017? What steps are you planning to take to make things happen? Instead of waiting for doors to open – are you planning to build your own door?

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Manifest Your Wishes With a ‘THANK YOU BOX’

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It’s the last day of 2016! Many of you are probably wondering what the new year will bring or perhaps you’ve already written out your new goal lists for 2017.

I want to share with you a wonderful way to manifest your New Year wishes. I’ve been using this manifestation method for several years and I’m always amazed by the results.

All you need to do is create a THANK YOU BOX.

I first came to know about a Thank You box whilst reading one of my favourite prosperity authors Catherine Ponder.

A Thank You box works on this principle – give thanks before you receive whatever it is you want.

Get a box (even a shoe-box will do) and decorate it.  Your Thank You box should look attractive and appealing to your eye. Whenever a personal need arises or you have a specific item you wish to manifest in your life – write down a small thank you note –  thanking the Universe for whatever it is you want. Write the note as though you’ve already received what it is you seek. Remember to always use the magical words: Thank You and then place your notes into your box. Once a week, go through your notes and check which wishes have manifested.

If something hasn’t manifested as yet, place it back into your box and just be patient. Sometimes it takes longer for some desires to be fulfilled. You just have to remain firm in your faith that what you’ve requested is on it’s way to you. You don’t have to worry about the details of how it will manifest – leave the specifics to the Universe. You just put in your order – give thanks that it’s already done and then wait for it to manifest on the physical plane.

Another important point to remember is that the Universe will always give us what is best for us. It will be for our highest good and we have to accept it. So create your Thank You box today. Remember the golden rule : Always first give thanks for whatever you want – before it even appears in your life.

I would love to know your thoughts on the Thank You box method of manifesting your wishes. Please leave a comment below!

I wish you a magical 2017 – filled with love, joy and prosperity.

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Make Gratitude An Everyday Habit

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We are in the midst of the festive season. This time of year, I hear people talk more often about gratitude and counting one’s blessings. As they spend quality time with their loved ones, they reflect on how grateful they are for all that they have and appreciate those special moments spent with family and friends. But once the festive season passes – some people tend to forget about being grounded in gratitude. They soon get caught up in the daily grind of life and forget to stop and appreciate the good things they have in their life. They lose the warm glowing feel of gratitude as they begin to only talk about the negatives and complain about people, events and circumstances. Gratitude shouldn’t be a seasonal practice – but an everyday one. Gratitude is a powerful force which can transform your life. It is one of the quickest ways to snap out of a depressed or negative state and positively reprogram your mind.

One of the easiest ways to activate the Law of Attraction – is to find more things to be grateful for. Appreciate the beauty around you and give thanks for the blessings you have. When you practice gratitude – it places you in a positive space. When you are feeling positive it becomes easier to attract more good things into your life. Practicing gratitude also aligns you with joy and positivity.

As we enter 2017 – set your intention to begin a daily practice of gratitude.Wake up feeling grateful each morning and go to bed at night also feeling grateful for the day you’ve had. Even if something negative happened – look for something positive to focus on. You can always find something to be grateful for. If you look hard enough – you will find it.

Keep a gratitude journal by daily writing down three to five things you can be grateful for. Remember you create your life with your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Make gratitude a daily part of your life – and you will be amazed by the wonderful things you attract and the miracles that come your way.

Have you experienced the power of Gratitude in your life? Perhaps you already have a gratitude journal. How has gratitude changed your life? After reading this blog post – are you feeling inspired to begin a gratitude journal in 2017? I would love to hear from you! Please leave a comment below.

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Enjoy a Banting Christmas

In recent times there has been great interest in Banting and the low carb healthy fat lifestyle (LCHF). I recently had the pleasure of chatting to Banting Coach Merle Cutten Westcott and found out that it is very possible to bant all year round – yes- even in the midst of the Christmas season!

Merle, a former high school teacher, taught and practiced a complementary therapy called Life Alignment. Since June 2014 Merle has been coaching as a Banting Buddie. As a mother, she is passionate about how children eat and often gives talks and workshops to groups of mothers to help them change their children’s eating habits and to cut down on sugar consumption. Merle conducts one-on-one coaching as well an online coaching programme.

Recently, nutritional expert Sally-Ann Creed teamed up with Merle and fellow banting coach Janita Bold to put together THE LOW CARB CREED which unpacks the low carb lifestyle and also contains yummy recipes.

Here is my interview with Merle

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Merle, what is Banting and what does such a lifestyle entail?

Banting or LCHF (low carb healthy fat), is a low carb, moderate protein and healthy fat lifestyle.  We cut all sugars, grains and processed oils.  Real  food that doesn’t come from a factory constitutes most of our diet.

What are the great benefits of Banting?

While many people think that this is a quick fix weight loss diet, it is actually a lifestyle that promotes healing in the body.  Many of my clients start Banting because of health issues, diabetes, stomach disorders, epilepsy, PCVOS and the list goes on.  For many this is a life-changing choice, and they are able to reduce or even go off all medication (under a doctor’s supervision)

 What lead you to become a Banting coach?

As a long time complementary therapist I had a keen interest in nutrition and after my late mother lost 30kg following a low carb lifestyle I decided to study LCHF nutrition.

How have you and your family successfully adapted to the Banting lifestyle – especially when you have to attend an event with catered meals or eat out at a restaurant?

My husband, 12 year old son and I all follow a low carb lifestyle.  Once you know how it is very easy.  When we eat out we choose protein, grilled or fried in butter with either a salad or vegetables.  Often I will have a salad as a main course and ask them to hold the dressing and bring me olive oil and a lemon wedge, this is really easy.  Breakfast is simple. Most breakfasts are fine if you just leave out the toast. If a meal is catered I just pick and choose. There is always something that I can eat.

What practical tips and advice do you have for people who want to begin Banting and how can they beat their carb and sugar cravings?

Supplementing with chromium helps to combat sugar cravings.  Eat three balanced meals a day, and don’t try and skip meals thinking that you will lose weight faster.

Tell us more about your role as a Banting coach and how you’ve been assisting people achieve their weight and health goals?

As a Banting coach I educate people about the lifestyle.  Diet plans are not effective as they are not a long term solution; education is the key to success, knowing the science behind the choices is key.  Much of my coaching is done in online support groups; people are very successful as they support each other.

You’ve co-authored the book, LOW CARB CREED. Give me an overview of the book and its contents?

THE LOW CARB CREED, answers all the frequently asked questions about LCHF lifestyles.  We explain everything from why we avoid certain foods, to how to interpret blood test results.  Food lists are updated, portioning explained and there are simple delicious every day recipes.

We are in the festive season. Some might say it’s just not practical to be Banting this time of year. What is your response to this and how can we maintain a low carb diet during the festive period?

It’s very practical to Bant at this time of year.  It’s my third Christmas following the lifestyle.  I choose not to eat sugar and grains as the impact on my body is just not worth it.  Instead I offer to take snacks or desert (lots of great recipes in The Low-Carb Creed) to make sure that there is food that I can eat at a function.  Choosing protein, vegetables and avoiding potatoes and rice is very simple.  I also have the occasional drink, but choose dry wine and either have a white wine spritzer or a glass of dry red.

Get in touch with Merle – email: merle@bantingbuddies.com

Check Out:  www.Bantingbuddies.com, https://www.facebook.com/bantingforsuccess/

THE LOW CARB CREED contains new updated LISTS – which help you to understand how many carbs you are eating.  Used with kind permission of Sally-Ann Creed ©2016

Download the pdf here: the_low_carb_creed_lists

THE LOW CARB CREED is available from Exclusive Books & CNA. You can also order a copy by emailing  kznadmin@bantingbuddies.com

Have you been Banting or are you interested in adopting the LCHF way of eating? Comment below and please share your success stories to help inspire others who also want to reach their health and weight goals.

 

Second Chances Love Anthology

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I’m incredibly excited to be featured in the Second Chances Love Anthology. It is a beautiful collection of feel-good romantic stories. I’m in the company of talented writers, Kathy Bosman (who is also editor of the anthology), Leenna Naidoo, E.A.West and Patricia Kiyono.

As the title suggests, our stories are all about second chances in love. The most wonderful part about the Second Chances initiative is that all proceeds from the book will be donated to Hope In Christ Children’s Home in my hometown Newcastle, KwaZulu Natal. It’s been rewarding knowing that I’m using my writing skills to serve a greater cause. Hope In Christ strives to provide children affected by abuse, neglect and HIV, a safe and loving haven.  The children are nurtured and are given their second chance in life to grow into healthy and well-adjusted adults.

My Second Chances story is titled Giovanni’s Christmas Bride. Here is a bit about how I was lucky enough to become part of the Second Chances anthology and some background on the romance I’ve contributed.

A few years ago, I wrote a 2000 word short story titled All In One Night. It featured a struggling single mother who on a dark stormy night ends up on the doorstep of the man she’d betrayed five years ago. The former lovers get the chance to clear the misunderstandings of the past and they discover they have a second chance at love. It all happens as the title suggested – in one night! I’d forgotten about this story until I’d come across a Facebook post by Kathy Bosman calling for writers to be a part of the Second Chances Anthology. I contacted her and she included me in the Second Chances Facebook group.  She thereafter sent me the brief and criteria for the anthology.

I immediately knew that All In One Night would be the perfect basis for my Second Chances romance. That story evolved into Giovanni’s Christmas Bride, giving me scope to delve deeper into the characters of Brennan Shaw and Giovanni Ferruccio and explore their passionate but complicated love story.

I decided on a Christmas themed romance as the Second Chances Anthology is releasing at the start of the December holidays. I’ve always enjoyed reading Christmas romances (and watching Christmas romantic movies) so I really liked having Brennan and Giovanni rediscover their love for each other during this magical season. What could be more romantic than blazing log fires, mistletoe kisses and planning a Christmas wedding?

As you read Giovanni’s Christmas Bride I hope your heart will be touched by Giovanni and Brennan’s second chance at love and that you enjoy their story, as much as I enjoyed writing it.

Second Chances – A Love Anthology releases on Amazon Kindle 30th November 2016

Available for Pre-order

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Finding your Passion

unnamedFor the longest time I wondered what my passion or calling in life was. My quest for my true calling began in my early twenties. It seemed everyone around me had found their so-called niche in life. They knew what they wanted and where they were heading.

I was confused and unsure. Not a happy place to be in. As I stressed about what I should be doing with my life, fear crept in along with its cousin doubt.

I wondered if my life would ever get on track and if I ever would find my true place.

I listlessly moved from job to job while I studied towards a degree in Communications and English.

In my mid-twenties I read a self-help book, the title of which I unfortunately cannot remember but there was one thing in that book that stood out for me. The author advised that in order to find one’s passion or calling in life – a person should think back to their childhood and the activities they enjoyed.

I felt as though I’d been hit by a bolt of lightning.

Suddenly there was pure clarity.

I had to pursue a career in radio and I had to become a writer.

Reflecting on my childhood, I loved nothing more than reading and writing and pretending to be a radio DJ. I grew up listening to Lotus FM and fantasized about one day being part of the Lotus team.

This December marks my twelfth year at Lotus FM and it’s been an exhilarating journey.

When I am not thinking radio – I enjoy writing fiction.

To date I’ve published eleven short stories in YOU magazine. I have a new story coming out in December.

And I am so thrilled to be part of the Second Chances – Love Anthology.

I’ve written a 20 000 word story titled Giovanni’s Christmas Bride.

Second Chances is due to be released on 30th November 2016 on Amazon Kindle.

I feel lucky to be able to follow my passions in life. There are other passions as well, which I would love to explore. Now it’s about creating more time – so that I can keep doing the things I love.

And this I believe is one of the great secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life.

So find your passion. Discover what makes your heart sing with joy.

What is your greatest passion in life? Are you following it?

I would love to hear from you. Please drop a comment below…

Until next time – “Live your passion.”

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